It's called this tendency most people have to IGNORE what you say - or write - and simply listen to - or read - what they want to.
Even putting words in black and white in front of these idiots matters not.
For instance, some of the fools who whine about me calling people fat when they are (fact my friend, sorry if it offends you, but if you've got a big belly that hangeth over, if you can't do pull-ups chin over bar etc - then you're either fat or functionally WEAK - no two ways around it etc etc) ... they'll ignore everything else I tell them.
They'll ignore the free help I give them, they'll ignore the great products that will get them into the sort of shape they really want to be - like I said yesterday, no-one really wants to be fat do they? Nah, I didnt think so!) ... and since these sort of nutjobs that ignore FACT - and prefer to focus on their warped versions of reality (my wife is a perfect example of this as well) ... there's no real point talking to them.
No goose and gander, no discussion of any nature, as it's always their way or the highway.
Now, Nazi feminist women or entitled brats are one thing.
For instance, Nandini, a girl I met online who claimed to get me a credit card when I wanted one - it was evident from the get go all she was interested in was "something else" - and NOT getting me credit cards, or any sort of business at all.
Unfortunately, she's boring, fat and a liar who masquerades to be someone she's not, sends out pitures of her "at her best" - and not what she is "now" (which is fat and out of shape) ... and therefore, she never really captured my interest.
She's great for someone like Glyn though - but wait- he's too cheap, never pays, and she wants one thing as usual - MONEY.
I remember trying to tell her how she nigh ignored everything I Said, and just got in touch with me when she needed money.
According to this loon, it's "her right not to respond to whatever she doesnt want to".
Which is code for saying "I'm not interested in talking".
OK, fair enough.
So, I didnt respond to her bullshit asking for money.
Of course, when THEY want something - they'll keep asking, so she did.
Then she whined about "how she didnt need my help, how she was independent" and so forth.
Honey, I never said you were or weren't - the facts pretty much point it out. She's one of those girls constantly latching on to guys for money - and a lot of desperados actually probably send it - and then remove her from their lives.
I did so - anyway, when I responded to her request with "goose and gander", she retorted back with this "dont talk to me anymore!"
In other words, do what this nutjob wants, never say what you want, just be an ATM for her, and so forth.
What a fool. Hehe.
Nazi feminist idiots usually ARE that ...
Women aren't the only ones though - men controlled by women are the same.
It's why I rarely, if ever, discuss anything with family - or "friends" - any more - the only discussions I have these days are business related, and I prefer it like that.
I dont know what it is with people in general, but the vast majority of lunatics out there see and read only what they WANT to.
And thats not the sort of discussion that to me is either rational, productive, or logical.
And therefore, my policy of BLOCKING continues ... - oh, customer service ain't exactly the best either.
Know when someone will give you the time of day my friend?
Listen to what you have to say - all of it , read - all of it?
When you've got something THEY Want.
They'll find all sorts of excuses to get in touch with you at that point ...
Life, my friend, is a long term negotiation game.
So is fitness in many ways ...
There's ups, downs, there's days you feel great, days you feel like shit, but you keep pushing on.
And you stick to your guns no matter what.
Ultimately that persistence wins out - and I, and my followers (I prefer using the term customers, but whatever) are living proof of this.
If you're interested in our secrets (price wankers not wanted) - then the 0 Excuses Fitness System is your BABY.
PS - I'm BRUTAL about calling folks out. I always have been. Hey, these same folks wouldn't stop to tear me down when I was down and kick me further down - hehe. So be it. The wheel always comes full circle, my friend - and I dont expect no quarters, neither do I take none ...
I focus on big shiny DOLLAR bills. Hehe.
I really need to add in squats as a category here!
I'll do so now - and then write this ...
- Back. Anyway, if there was ONE reason I wrote Squat 101 - it wasn't so much that NO good book - well, that comes close to mine - existed out there in terms of squats, and going deep, no pun intended, like NO-ONE has ever gone or delved into the subject before - well, it was that, but another huge reason was this, and I keep saying this - LOTS of people focus more on Hindu squats than the good ole bodyweight squat, mostly to the detriment of the latter.
And this is a huge mistake, one I've covered in my books, writings - yes, even the "free ones" - on my sites.
Look, to keep it simple, and yet again - do both.
The bodyweight squat done right works the hips and hamstrings and butt like no other movement can - the Hindu squat is more thigh and calf specific.
Dont get me wrong, both work the other parts of the body too.
But those of you with naturally weak hamstrings will notice you ain't getting much of a hammie workout at all with Hindus ... (becuase your weak hamstrings cause other muscles to overcompensate).
Similarly, a lot of you with strong hamstrings naturally will use those more when doing Hindus.
Stretching, and opening up the hamstrings, and back of the body - I cannot emphasize it highly enough.
Pull-ups as well.
You work the BACK if you want to look good on the front, and FEEL good.
If you want to be HEALTHY as a horse.
You BACK it up - there is a reason for the expression.
And with squats, some people question if "I've done 100 Hindus at a good tempo in proper form". Do I now need to do bodyweight?
Ideally hell yes.
Ideally you knock out another set of 100 bodyweight.
And keep going.
But there are more ways to skin that cat.
And MIXED squat workouts is one of them - combining both forms of squats into ONE workout.
Do a Hindu, then 5 bodyweight , do 5 Hindus, 2 jump squats - and so forth.
Key is this - you do not, I repeat NOT - pause before you reach a set number, much like you would not if you're doing only type of squat in the workout.
This not only taxes your neuro muscular system a hell of a lot more as form is different, yet similar on both movements - but also taxes your MUSCLES differently - and better.
It improves rep counts beyond any sort of belief, because you're giving a muscle group a "relaxed break" - yet you're still working it.
(A secret I mention in Pushup Central and many of my other books, notably Battletank Shoulders - do 10 pull-ups in PERFECT Form (yes, getting chin over the bar, dead hang etc) - and then 25 fingertip pushups in perfect form).
And more ...
I just put out a couple of vidoes on youtube on this, so you'll want to check those out, one of those is at the bottom of this page.
And thats that.
Lots of people whine about their visualizations "not working" and such. Then, they get on Twitter which for some reason seems to be awash with even more "Desperate" bullshit than ever before - with a few "keeping a real's" shining brightly -yours truly being one of them, and I make sure to give all such posts a genuine like or such (not that it matters either way, of course).
Ever see those endless gif's, images, emojis etc saying "affirm 11111! Something WONDERFUL is about to happen today!"
Why the heck do you need to affirm that number?
True, it's a magic number - I even did a video on it here - but the magic happens in your mind FIRST, my friend.
It often happens without a single number beside it.
Then those images saying "You will be RICH TODAY!" (often accompanied by a picture of a humvee, SUV and such).
When I see this fake BS that people buy into DAILY, scrolling endlessly on social media, equate it to visualization - I almost puke.
It all feels, and IS so fake!
Those images mean "F all" - the only vibe that comes off them is folks that haven't made it pretending to have made it, and "conning" others into believing it which most do.
Zero to Hero has received rave reviews all over the world, my friend - yet, you wont find a single social media post or other email from me along the lines of the above.
Then there are those who say they visualize - but can't really "feel it".
My friend, if you can't feel what you're visualizaing with DEEP passion and emotion, you might as well not do it.
And there's a good reason behind your mind telling your subconscious that "this seems fake".
For someone thats never made a dime on their own in their lives, to visualize making a billion dollars right off the bat wont work.
If you add a "maybe" in there and let it go - that conditions your mind a lot better for the eventual "reality".
Most are so obsessed with money that all visualization centers around "money falling into my lap".
There has to be the obligatory dollar signs everywhere!
Dont get me wrong.
I use the tricks too, I've been doing it subconsciously since I was born.
But they aren't a be all and end all for me.
Take it all away from me - my mind will still do what I want, and create the reality I want.
When I visualize, I think about things I've done before that make me happy - I think about what I want in the future - that makes me SHIVER AND QUIVER with RED HOT EMOTION!
Then, I bridge between those two worlds.
Those that claim visualization doesn't work (because of what the so called social media gurus told them to and tell them "how to do it") - well, your current results in your life are in part, large part, an end result of visualization whether you know it or not.
And if you have to force yourself to visualize, or it feels forced, it aint a goal you deeply want deep down inside. It's not something that ignites a spark of RED HOT PASSION IN YOU - and its not going to work that way, simple, if you want magic to happen - you have to truly BE AND WANT the end result FIRST, my friend, in your own MIND!
Only those that have truly, truly DEEPLY wanted something will "get this".
Yes, visualization plays a vital part in everything you do in your life my friend whether you know it or not.
When you make the decision to "on the fly" - drop down and do a 100 pushups like I didd yesterday, no warmups etc - chances are you thought about it first for a fleeting instant - I did.
THAT is how you do it.
You visualize - then you LET GO.
And you let the magic happen.
And that, my friend is that.
It forms a huge part of getting better at tough exercises too - such as the pull-up.
Look, I've literally visualized people coming to my front door - the type of person - my reaction - times deliveries will occur - and so forth - and it's happened, like clockwork.
The key is to remember this.
Money isn't the end result you "want".
You want the end result that you GET from money.
This, my friend is a huge secret most miss.
Without FEELING ... nothing happens in this world, good or bad, or lukewarm for that matter...
Getting back to it - if you think of something and it feels forced, fake etc - well, then it likely is in terms of where you're at now. Chances are also excellent and second to none you dont believe you can have it - and if you dont believe, well, you're either not thinking of something you truly WANT - or ... you're taking leaps before you can walk.
More on this in future emails, but for now, I'll close off with the eternal Claude Bristol quote I always hold dear, and keep close to me.
Repetition of the same chant, the same incantations, the same affirmation leads to BELIEF. Once that belief becomes a deep seated conviction - things begin to HAPPEN.
And that, friend is that.
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This evening, for whatever reason, despite having zero interest in astrology (astro "shastro" - as they call it in Inda, for some reason Indians have a tendency to mangle the English languge into part English part Hindi??) and even less knowledge of it beyond my sun sign - I found myself goggling at Vladimir Putin's horoscope (along with some predictions of Saturn being in retrograde or some such jack).
Now, Putin's a man i highly admire - so do I admire Trump, and a lot of other guys, and I'll do all I can to find out about someone I admire, but horoscopes?
Never. Haha. I dont believe in them anyway, yet, I dont know how I got caught up in it - apparently a page discussing why Vladimir wears his watch on the right wrist instead of the left (which has nothing to do with astrology) got me there - dont ask how.
Before clowns jump on me about it, no, nothing excuses the immense suffering the Ukranian PEOPLE are going through, but you - anyone with any sense - knows that their leader brought it upon them
If he hadn't jumped up and down about joining Nato - and then taken steps to do it - none of this would be happening. The Russians had already made it very clear this would happen if he tried - and I dont blame them. What would happen if China stationed missiles in Cuba, or the Russians showed up in Mexico with their artillery?
Case, point, and closed...
Of course, it ain't that simple. Geo politics never is, but I'm not here to discuss that - nor am I here to discuss the never ending lunacy of the US and Nato spending billions on an unwinnable war - the opponents here have planned this for years upon years, and the results are clear on the ground (and the Russians haven't even really gone beyond 10% of their REAL capacity).
I then got around to locating my birth certificate - a doc I did not even know I had!
And my birth time, which I thought for some odd reason was 4 20 AM, but it wasn't. 😁
Honestly, it's not!
And surprise surprise, or not - what I Saw caused me to drop dead in my tracks - for about a minute.
Nigh all the numbers I've been "seeing" over the years - each and everyone of them is in some way, shape or form on that certificate. It's literally who I am, and there aren't a lot of numbers there, but man!
So then I got looking around at my astrology charts, houses of planets, or planets of houses, and constellation alignments and other stuff that boggles the mind - whoever thought of all this must have had a lot of damn free time on his or her hands.
Oddly enough though - a lot of the stuff fits.
that don't mean I'm going to look at the planets the next time I make a decision on anything - NO. It will be gut, instinct and ME as usual, but it IS interesting - maybe it's not all hocus pocus for the most part.
Even people like Trump etc, you look at their horoscopes, the genuine ones. A lot of that stuff matches .
The ONE thing I couldn't - and have not and cannot explain until now is this, my friend.
Why despite my relationship with my wife being in the 12th house (the last, hehe) - or non existent actually - she won't consent to a divorce is beyond me - and everyone else that knows the situation.
It ain't money or the lack thereof.
It ain't future potential or current, Nazi feminist women dont think about the word "potential" - they see only what is in front of them "now".
As far as money goes, she'd get and gets all of what she wants either from me or my mom - and if there is any lack she aint the one covering it herself.
She does have this strange theory of "I'm NEVER going to let him go so he can never have another family again!" - which is strange if you think about what has already happened, continues to happen - and logically, anyone with half a frigging brain knows its just a piece of paper (that often ruins otherwise perfectly good relationships due to the pressure - either consciously or not - imposed on both parties via that idiotic decree).
So it isn't that either, and it all boils down to one fine thing - I'm a damn fine catch indeed.
And astrology and all the positive traits in my "houses" or planets or what not aside (apparently "huge money" comes my way, which makes perfect sense too) .... of course I'm a good catch.
Good looking, intelligent, charming, a real man - alpha male that is sorely needed for one when the household help are acting up (wife's actually, amazingly enough told me to tell them when they are! Though she didnt tell me ogle the bodaciously vivicaious ones out of them, and as she says "you'll make her your girlfriend!") (I likely would, hehe) ... a man's man, physically tough and in great shape, dont whine, dont complain, has a fair bit of wealth though nowhere near what it's going to be in the near future - and so forth.
And no, for the morbid minded, it ain't about the number 8 and that house being associated with all sorts of dark things (money included - yay) - and me passing ... my money is so tied up in whatever I've got it into that even I cannot access it freely - and thats how it should be, my friend.
I'm just a damn good catch. Hehe. A man other women all want, covet, and the women I have "sense" it. Thats women for you!
And being called a movie star, a TV personality, and so many other things, it all makes sense now.
It also explains my long legion of haters, the bald trolls like Schofield (all of these trolly sorts are bald, and of course, seeing an alpha male with a vibrant shock of hair triggers yet another one of their latent insecurities - hehe)
When you're destined for greatness - and more importantly put in the work and BELIEVE in yourself - anything can happen - regardless of your planet's positions in the natal chart or what not they call it.
And that, my friend is that.
My fitness routines play a huge, huge part in this.
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Last night, I knew it - yet, I went to sleep in that position anyway.
I knew when I turned over on my side "something was off".
And this morning, I woke up with a STIFF, sore neck - the likes of which I haven't seen for months, barely able to turn my head sideways if at all. Hehe.
We've all been there, along with the stiffness at the BACK OF THE HEAD TOO!
Traps, etc. Now, maybe some advanced exercises contributed to some of it, but it was poor posture last night, stress, and so forth.
Most would think "massage" as a remedy that works for this, and deep tissue massage does work, yes (there is a reason why I Dedicate an entire CHAPTER in 0 Excuses Fitness to massage - it deserves it!).
But what if you dont have someone to massage the knots and kinks out, or just plain prefer not to go for a massage?
Some of those idiotic machines (the foot massage machine my wife so loves - ugh) might do the trick, but they dont long term - thats UNNATURAL massage.
(by all means use machines if you have to - no problem, I'm just giving it to you straight, just like machines at the gym - all of it is unnatural).
The neck bridge explained in the book above (0 Excuses Fitness) is an excellent way to keep stiff necks away but you gotta work up to it my friend.
And one remedy that works instantly - is something I've shared in the Ship before, a TOP secret method not shared before with anyone outside that group before, yet, I'm sharing it with you on this list now.
It's so simple you'll "shake your head in amazement" - if you can right now that is. Hehe.
And you'll feel like a bazillion bucks once done.
It is this - simply move your head in the opposite direction from which it's sore. And apply pressure with your hands - as much as you can - in the reverse direction.
So, you move your head towards the left, but your hands stop it, moving it towards the right.
This "push of war" between two sides works the neck muscles - or any other you so choose (no, not the one down there, lol) - ISOMETRICALLY - statically - and the principles of dynamic tension apply.
The more you work the muscle, the more impurities RACE out of it, and fresh blood pours into it - and thus you feel better almost instantly.
Works in all directions too - up, down, sideways - and so forth.
And there's plenty of other means too - so simple people pooh pooh at these methods, but the simplest means always and often (not in that order) work the BEST!
Thats yet another benefit of Isometric and Flexiblity Training - you recover from aches, sprains, and those annoying niggles a LOT quicker when you incorporate these techniques into your routine.
Remember this the next thing you're sorer than sore, either from poor posture or a tough workout (or too much computer screen/dumbphone time - especially the latter) and barely able to move ...
And get the above book NOW.
Start learning, and incorporating into your routine TODAY.
Thats that. then ...
Rahul Mookerjee (PS - Yes, I'm applying the same techniques to myself right NOW too!). Haha.
Lots has been made of (for those that lift weights) how "heavy is needed to build muscle".
How you go heavier and heavier, injuries piling up regardless, form notwithstanding - until you sit on a bench and "pump and isolate" the nth strand of the bicep and so forth - ugh.
Heavy weights are good, but certainly not isolation wise!
Its GREAT if you can lift the fender off your truck for instance wthout external help. A little old lady once did just that - no kidding.
But really - training wise, the most important muscles are the BRAIN and the HEART. As always, in life as well and last night, another one of those on the spur of the moment ideas I had to do 500 swings non stop with an Indian club right OUT Of the shower, not before (I didnt get a good workout in apparently before that!) - really hit the spot.
The video shows me going at 70-80% of my capacity.
I stopped at 400 reps, but I had a 1000 more left in the tank - easy.
And while 10 kgs is anything but easy to swing for most folks - it is "medium" for me - not easy not tough - try doing it with 30 kgs.
A weight most scoff at in the gym, yet, you do high rep workouts without stopping with these, and they make the SWEAT pour like nothing else my friend.
Club swinging is not included in Corrugated Core - but it builds that for sure! (proof's in the pudding - no pun).
If you want that six pack from hell, a rock hard "cast iron" midsection, muscles that ripple under the skin, a toned midsection, sides, lower back - well, there's many ways to get it, but a club is an indispensable tool in this process that should never be ignored. More importantly, you must swing it RIGHT or not at all.
There's a lot of material out there on club swinging, some of it good, most BAD and wrong - especially the "arching the lower" back as you swing (which is OK when you begin, but shouldn't be the long term focus).
For best results, you do these with legs as straight as possible, and keep the back neutral. The motion comes from core, grip and ... CORE!
much like if you were do those "hoopla swings" with those rings - if you get my meaning.
More to the point, this sort of training not only builds a ferocious grip, but it affects the BRAIN positively too.
Thick grips on pull-up bars do as well, but you'll find it tough with these mudgars since the grip is already very thick on most of them.
We dont make 'em as yet.
We will in the future, but for now - some of the old time training info that Indian wrestlers had my friend, in fact MOST of it - is pure GOLD, and has never been revealed to the public - before now - and yours truly is obviously in an unique position to do so.
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Nah not THAT type of exercise - I hardly need to tutor you on that on this here site. Hehe.
I mean workouts as in fitness workouts.
This afternoon, I thought I'd take it easy. 50 squats and a LONG stretching session was ALL I did, friend.
I was feeling pretty good when I do what I do often.
"Let's do just ONE pushup".
I was resting at the time, so I really had no biz thinking pushups, but the "urge" to do so was greater than that not to (hint - key sign of an achiever) - and I dropped down, did one letter perfect rep.
Then a few minutes later, this thought popped into mind.
"Lets do 5 letter perfect reps, and call it a day".
5 I did, chest touching the floor on each rep, and I was amazed to find out I did not even want to stop there.
160 pushups later, I'm soaked in sweat and worked to the bone (especially forearms - man!) in a way I haven't been as of late.
What made this so intense for someone like me who casually cranks out 500 plus pushup workouts?
Well, there's several aspects to it, but maintaining focus on BREATHING And form as opposed to merely rep count and speed is key here.
Look, I tell you in Fast and Furious Fitness I can and do make 10 pushups harder than a 100, and this if done right is true.
Most people, even when they do FOCUS on the muscle being worked - focus on the wrong one for pushups - the chest.
This is better than nothing, but the real focus should be on breathing, triceps and LATS (or back) in that order.
Focus on the BACK of the body in general - and the front takes care of itself. Yes, those of you with naturally tight hamstrings - I fall into this category despite all the very extensive stretching I do - listen UP.
Finally, the key most folks miss even after you tell them (even I miss this sometimes during high rep workouts).
Yes, you heard me, scoffer - LEGS.
Specifically, the THIGHS.
I've written before in Pushup Central about proper form, keeping the body straight, but that isn't all there is to it.
You tense the thighs - the quads while doing pushups.
And if you do them the way I do - you CLENCH them as hard as you can while doing the pushup.
This turns the pushup - any form - into an entirely different workout that will work you to the BONE - especially the core my friend.
Try it, and see, and you'll understand what I mean.
Brooks Kubik in his classic book "Dinosaur Bodyweight Training" referred to this as the principle of co-contraction.
You can call it what you like, what he meant is what I'm saying - tense all muscle groups being worked consciously and breathe in and out "into them" and in general while you do your reps.
(That's a book I often read, much like any great book - such as 0 Excuses Fitness for one, or Think and Grow Rich, or the Magic of Believing- you cannot digest the contents of the book in one sitting - you have to come back repeatedly to get true value for the book. The discerning reader will note how he learns something new every time from these books when he does this!)
Really get MAX bang for each rep that way - and when you train this way you dont need very many reps at all to get a great workout in.
For me, today it was the relatively low number of 160 pushups.
OK, I swung my club for 100 reps too, but pushup wise...
When you train this way, you may find you ...
Do more warm up sets. I did more today (so about 185 in all).
SLOW down as you focus even more on breathing and form (and this is fine provided you dont DWADLE).
Do more "supersets" - I did a LOT of these today - perhaps thats another reason my forearms BE TOAST. MY!
And many other things.
You'll find above all youll get a great, great workout in without very many reps at all, and thats the key - and what I want to pass on in today's email.
Since I have - thats that!
Be sure and pick up the best course ever on pushups out there TODAY - Pushup Central.
And thats that friend. Back soon.
Some of it is so stupid I wonder how it made it to the "list" of idiocy in the first place - perhaps the lazy asses populating this planet, and there are a lot - made it up in their minds and put it there. '
I've debunked so many of these before - one being the "pushups are only good for conditioning" myth.
Utter baloney coming from folks who cannot do high rep pushup workouts in proper form.
Then, the nonsense about "they only tax the chest, and you won't build the upper body fully with just pushups".
Utter tosh. (although yes, pull-ups are key too!).
Then the thing about "they dont give you cardio"
Do 100 Hindu pushups in proper form without stopping, then come back and tell me ...
The one I want to debunk today - is this one - this utter rot I keep reading about " some firefighter's test".
Apparently if you're a firefighter, and can do "40 or more pushups in less than 60 seconds" or some bunk, you're fit and are ... ah, but let me just quote it
Men who can perform 40 pushups in one minute are 96 percent less likely to have cardiovascular disease than those who do less than 10. The Harvard study focused on over 1,100 firefighters with a median age of 39. The exact results might not be applicable to men of other age groups or to women, researchers warn.
Incredibly this bunk is BELIEVED.
First off, why just firefighters? Does the pushup distinguish between firefighters, lazy asses, and tri atheletes, boxers, wrestlers, average Joe/Jane etc?
You bet - except only in terms of being able to DO IT.
Second, who the hell came up with this "40 number" - and more importantly, less than a minute
Proper pushups are done with emphasis on the DEEP breathing.
That means, at the bare minimum, pushups should take you a second and a half per pushup.
More as you keep going in a set as you "tire" and pause for rest, which I do not advocate doing in the downward dog position. (depends on the style of pushups, but lets say regular pushups the article or so called study is referring to).
Third, how the hell did they get that percentage.
I dont know, I could do less than 10 pushups in a minute for weeks, and still build strength, health and muscle...
These so called studies, my friend are utter bunk.
Lazily jerking your way up and down ain't a pushup.
its better than nothing granted, but it's an invitation to more injury down the road, and no long term or even palpable benefits to heart health or overall strength and conditioning.
Do 10 proper pushups the way I teach, my friend.
Then do 30 the way "you've seen them done" focusing more on quick, rep count etc.
You'll quickly see the truism of what I say above.
Moral of the story - DO, don't "follow the herd".
More such myths busted in the "all time greatest courses on Pushups" - Pushup central - which goes the best together with, as even the book narrators have put it (and they're super critical mind you) "the best damn course on jumping rope out there) "Jump Rope Mania".
I'm missing my jump rope already!
And I'll be back soon.
One of my pet "dislikes" (and there are many) about my "significant" other is this habit she's developed over the last year or so to keep staring at the dumbphone when I come in to talk to her (which isn't a lot at all).
It's her childish way of showing "disrespect" - and she thinks, at the age of 35 plus "it's cool" (know those airheads you see on the phone China style, "eyes glued to the phone" even if a damned bomb burst under their seat).
Now, her own life - and the way she runs it - utter catastrophe in many ways, and I've discussed that before, the results, or lack thereof, and so forth ...
But what I want to discuss today?
And those growing up in these sort of dysfunctional families.
I should know, hey.
I grew up in one - and if it hadn't been for the extremely tough love I've received all my life - and my own BRAIN - and a will (back when folks actually had a will as opposed to doing what the Guru on the dumbphone prattles on about) ... I'd be a complete wreck as of now, or maybe worse.
This morning, I was doing the usual, pacing about in my room thinking of business issues, growing the businesses, and so forth - which the first few hours of every day and indeed throughout the day - I'm THINKING.
Issues that bother me, issues that need to be solved, and so forth- but what I do NOT do the first thing in the morning is flop down into the sofa, legs spread wide apart, and get on the dumbphone and watch idiocy.
That has been my wife's life for YEARS now, and unfortunately she's managed to, by virtue of "leading by example" - get the daugher to morph into a future "her" as well in that regard. Ugh.
I was always very against getting the daughter a dumbphone at the age of 7. There are far better things one can give their kids, of course, try explaining that to a Nazi feminist who runs to the nearest "backed up by a cuckold" Nazi feminist mother in law who will shower her with free goodies if just because "big bad Rahul dared say a word against her".
My family's been the sort where a woman could literally run rampant over, or even maybe some day "off" a guy - and they'd be like oh the girl must have had a reason, guy did it, they wouldn't bother thinking of reasons or lack thereof.
Now I'm well used to all of this, but the point is this -kids.
I'd rather see my daugher play, exercise, do some of the things I do - which the example is right there in front of her.
Yet, the wife outyells me - and her - in everything, and as my mother correctly says "my daughter is petrified of her mother".
She doesnt need to be, I keep telling her, but when the wife clutches her closely to her everywhere she goes, the little lamb has no choice but to be petrified of a loony Mary ...
Sound familiar, this story? To some of you it will ...
The way these women literally damage kids - then turn around and blame it on the kids - and of course, then men - everyone but their own damned selves, I mean geez, growing up, I was taunted at home big time for wanting to be fit - how stupid is that?
When I wanted to play soccer, and other manly sports, I was told "I was no good" so we won't buy you equipment to do it (which was basically all I wanted was shoes).
And so forth.
I was never shown the way, no example was set - changing car tyres, driving, drinking a beer, all the "manly" things a guy should be doing - or for that matter LIFE, or business.
My father was always quick to tell me I could never run my own business.
Yet, he never once told me HOW to do so.
Maybe because he never managed it himself!
My Uncle took me to his office once - an Uncle who I barely ever stay in touch with "wolf" as he calls me. Hehe.
I still remember that.
I dont remember my father taking me to, or even being OPEN about his own office to me ever - or my sister for that matter. For my mom that was always adults talk - of course, she neglected to know this - "kids learn by example".
Not everyone needs to be a fitness expert, no.
Not everyone needs to be a visualization guru.
I might be a lot of those things, but the bottom line - waking up each morning and staring at the dumbphone is one thing - brain destroying.
And all else the kids see in these households, the way their mothers live, nasty, lazy and ... whats the term? Filthy homes with dishes overflowing, the bed never made, garganturan bundles of clothes constantly piled up - I never saw that growing up, but my daughter does.
All the time.
And this "under the wife's thumb" where I "have no say in it".
So much for letting women be in control and run the show - now thats not to say ALL women are like this.
I know plenty that haven't allowed their kids a phone till the age of 16, I know plenty who believe in doing their own chores and not ranting about self entitled prima donna "maids" and so forth, I know plenty that believe in WORKING for a living as opposed to "what is the next freebie" I can get ... and so forth.
But I'm talking Nazi feminists here, sadly, there are a lot of them out there my friend.
I'll close off with this one quote which I saw and loved - basically one about "anytime a woman breaks up with you, she's betting against your future. It's your job to make her regret it".
(I see a lot of these quotes, but this one really struck home, I generally don't retweet or reshare these "motivational" quotes though I'm not saying they're wrong or bad, but THIS one - was one of the rare ones I shared, and given so many people liking it - there must be something to it. Hehe).
I do that everyday with my significant other. Hehe.
Albeit indirectly, and the way to win against Nazi feminism isnt the direct "brutal" way - that way will get you nowhere fast - if at all.
The indirect way is explained here, my friend - in the one and only book of it's kind - https://www.0excusesfitness.com/how-to-not-only-combat-and-win-against-but-profit-big-time-from-the-nazi-feminist-disease-plaguing-modern-day-society/
And thats that, my friend.
PS - Guys, and this needs to be said - if nothing else, maintain control over your finances. All too often I see guys bending to the whims of idiotic women thinking "on the spur of the moment" with NO long term vision and making purchases etc. One of the keys to success is RATIONALLY evaluating each and every purchase - I've done that for years with my wife, and none of - literally NONE - the things she;s bought or wants me to buy (which I didnt a lot of times) have any long term value, if anything, they have a net long term LOSS.
"School project. We need these things NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
I get them "NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!"
Yet days later, the supplies sit there, unused, the dumbphone is the only thing that is used - of course, until the mother decides its time to get off the phone and get the kid to do some homework for a change.
She complains about my own mother "stocking up" for emergencies (not saying my mom is any less culpable) - I tell her, well, in those days thats how it used to be, old habits die hard, yet rants up a storm when she deems I dont stock up on essentials.
Essentials that when I tell her show up at home she's too busy on the dumbphone or bitching with the fat ass she calls her "maid" to even acknowlege they're there - and they sit there literally rotting in the fridge, when you tell her thats money wasted, she yells up a storm.
Truly, I'm seeing the effects of "having it all on a golden platter in front of her". LOL. Hilarious, but sad as well...
Utter lunacy my friend, and you, the RATIONAL MALE reading this would be best advised keeping control, insight, and even TALK about your business, life and finances to yourself.
Way too few men do that though unfortunately ...
I originally wanted to title this "the fine line between abuse and tough love" - which it could be too - maybe I'll title it that on the other site!
But yeah, the relationship - one of the best, if not THE best - certainly the steamiest I've been involved in, and that says a hell of a lot (you know the girls in love when she happily giggles in class "I'm plump" - when you explain plump to her - and freely admits the happiness due to the relationship was in small part responsible for some of the extra, in her case "oh so cute" pounds).
It ended stormily too - yin and yang.
And it was the best damn thing that ever happened to me - fitness wise - life wise - in all regards - both the relationship itself and the ending.
Lets talk fitness, friend.
I was in my somewhat phat and unfit days those days - though I still hiked hills, but nowhere near what I should have - and certainly not as fat as I used to be before, and people always made a point to tell me about it.
Apparently my confidence, doing pull-ups even at that weight (yes, getting chin over bar) pissed them off so much that they had to call the fat boy out for being fat - which is what he was - big time.
It never bothered me one damn bit.
When I started (restarted) hiking after years, it still didnt bother me.
When I was with Carol - both of us exercised for reasons other than fitness if you get my drift. Hehe.
I'm not even going to get into "women love something extra to grab onto" - no - the X shape is what everyone, male/female likes.
Know when I really, really started to get super fit around 2016 ?
AFTER my breakup with Carol.
I felt rage and anger of the sort I never felt towards anyone else - no I wasn't angry at or with her - it was "one of those things".
I couldn't concentrate - focus - on anything.
To get this out of my system, I started climbing hills x 5.
Hiking first twice a day then thrice - then four times.
Along the way, I kept getting astonished comments about my rapid, almost magical weight loss daily - and when in 2016 (again, reasons not important) I went completely cold turkey off beer - oh boy.
Now, point being made is this - and it's a common whine a lot of folks have about "hurting feelings" and other crap.
Sometimes, you call a spade a spade, and that ain't abuse, friend. It's tough love that hits home - and that hitting home- that EMOTION is what channels into your ACTS thereafter and gets you results.
Unless you're content to be a loser and sit at home and whine while the world passes you by in terms of results in all areas, emotion is key.
If you ain't fired up and ANGRY about something, chances are you wont achieve that something - period.
Or, overly enthusiastic about it ...
If it's not a red hot DESIRE, something you have to DO, though you dont quite know why - it wont accomplish squat.
No pun intended.
In my own case, the jibes etc never bothered me.
Hey, all good.
What did bother me was the breakup - and boy did I use that rage constructively - though even I did not know it at the time!
Getting things out of your system physically can sometimes be the best thing you do for yourself!
And I would NEVER Have got into the shape I eventually did if it hadn't been for that ANGER starting a RED HOT FIRE INSIDE OF ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So if you're one of the many people that gets "offended" if you're fat and I call you fat, and whines about feelings - well, feeling is exactly what this is about.
What seperates the doers from the fools (see the latest review Pushup Central - THE READER!...) got in that regard HERE ... is taking action backed up by EMOTION which FUELS it.
Bottom line, friend.
And that key concept is explained in many different ways over and over again in Zero to HERO!
Further, most of these whiny sorts - the phat, out of shape lazy sorts - have - some very notable exceptions excluded - ole Donald being one - SHIT going on in their lives period, and it makes sense. If you cannot respect your own body enough to the point, as noted Indian actor Akshay Kumar once said "the day I dont train and take care of my body daily - that day is the day I'll break my own body to pieces" - then nothing and no-one will ultimately respect YOU, my friend.
I dont even know if this makes sense to a lot of people reading it - probably not, but the doers, well, you know who you are.
As a lady recently told me - I dont care if someone marries a giraffe, just dont make me pay for their love child. Hehe.
And she's right.
This fat and lazy sort is exactly the sort that doesnt understand goose and gander, and it shows in their lives ...
Funnily enough, it was that sort who used to call me out for that - when I was doing far more at that weight than those idiots ever could.
OK, thats that.
Take from this what you will - and get in the best shape of your life starting NOW - ZERO EXCUSES!
PS - Another case in point? The ole significant other, and the numerous hired helps she goes through - dissatisfied.
It's the subcontinent she is in, so for those saying "wow! Maids! She doesnt realize how lucky she is!" - well, they're all "lucky" - if you can call it that - around that part of the globe. Cheap labor and that (yeah right - like the submissive women in China myth - but I wont go there!).
Is it a coincidence that the in shape (well over 50) worker she hired before (and let go because she got flirty with me - hey, those boobs. I couldn't resist!) used to do a damn fine job, show up on time etc - never take off's without informing her in advance for the most part ...
... and that the fat Nazi feminist c*** she's hired now is the polar opposite? Ugh!
I dont believe in coincidences, never have, but thats how it goes, my friend ...
Again, take from this whatever lessons you may.
They're all TRUE!